I have been reading a bunch of blogs lately and do you know what I've discovered? There is a lot of blog fraud going on. There are actually people who write whole blogs that are completely fabricated. AND they get hits and followers in the THOUSANDS! Do you know how famous I could be as a blogger if I made this stuff up?? I could fill posts, and posts of drama and cliff hangers that would keep readers coming back for more. Oh yes I could. (of course, for the record, I could keep you coming back multiple times a day to look for updates if I told you the truths from my life too. For those of you that know me in real life, you know what I'm talking about....)
It's hard to strike a balance as a blogger. I am someone who freely tells it all to anyone who wants to know or cares to listen. But, now I have children who don't like all their anecdotes shared with the world. AND they have gotten savvy enough to check up on the blog periodically. So, so, so much good stuff I could share that would make you laugh till you cried, peed, snorted, or whatever your laughing overflow is. But the point is, kids are entitled to have their stories and their lives kept off the cyber highway.
I figure it all comes down to the writing. A good writer can find a cliff hanger in almost anything. A good writer can turn the dull and boring in to something that people feel they need to read about. A good writer can draw people back to a blog over and over again just because a reader connects with the words. That's the kind of blogger I want to be. I have often thought I want to know what it feels like to be a big time blogger, but now that I've been doing it for a few years? Not so much. The pressure to produce and keep readers clicking on my page would be way more than I'm willing to deal with. I don't need to fill a blog with drama, my real life has more than enough of that.
So, as part of my stripping I have dropped a bunch of blogs that I have previously followed. And I want to encourage you to make sure that if you're a blog reader, to follow good blogs. Don't fill your head with a bunch of other people's fake drama - you don't need it. Follow blogs that you have a connection with or of people that you KNOW are real and are sharing real life with you. It's easy to get sucked in - it happens to the best of us.
I suppose that leaves me with the challenge of making a little blog like mine interesting enough to keep you coming back. I have been thinking up different ways to make the boring and mundane, exciting and entertaining. Hmmmmm.... I could tell you about the time I made my own laundry detergent, or how my house is currently covered in caterpillars and every morning I try to save all my plants from being eaten by them. Oh I don't know. I suppose I could just tell you that I am a single mom and a stripper. Pass THAT along to your friends and see if they aren't intrigued...
Check back on Monday for a stripping update and a new weekly challenge. We are stripping our way to freedom friends. Don't give up!
I love this post, thank you. I have to say, a few years ago when blogging first became all the rage and I read way too many, I said to a good friend of mine, you know, I feel so inferior to all these bloggers, look at everything they do and accomplish. Her reply was,remember, a lot of these people portray someone they want you to THINK they are. Ah, a light bulb moment for sure! And I've remembered those wise words ever since and just read a handful of blogs I feel I can connect to. No, I don't garden and don't want to, although I did plant lots of potted flowers on my porch and I do have an herb garden (mother's day gift) that I don't use but love the smell when I water, I haven't ordered bees or have chickens clucking out back (that seems to be all the rage) and I'm okay with that. I'm focusing on what's important to me, simplifying, buying what we need as opposed to what we want, family, good homemade food, exercising daily and fun knitting and sewing projects to donate or give as gifts. I don't do an Etsy shop, and yes that's okay too. So yey for your wonderful insight and lovely and fun blog!
ReplyDeleteI love your comment Andrea! I live on a farm and have tried several times to garden and grow things, because heck, I LIVE ON A FARM! You know what? I hate it! Every time I tried, I convinced myself it would be better. NOPE. I still hate it. So, this year? No garden!
DeleteWe are not those people with perfect blog lives convincingly described in words and displayed through perfectly filtered photos. WE ARE REAL PEOPLE with real lives!
Carry on my stripper friend....
Diane
Thank you. I see this so often and it just makes me sick. I really despise frugal living blogs/anti-consumerims/minimalism blogs that are slathered with ads. I think my favorite one is by a girl named S who claims that she got out of $80,000 of debt in 6 months through minimalist living. Oh, btw, she makes $20,000 a month from a job that she won't discuss. anybody can reduce $80,000 of debt in six months when they make $120,000 in that time. I'll believe her life when I see it.
ReplyDeleteGood post!
Hahahaha - I love what you said about reducing the debt with that amount of income! It's so easy for readers to be sucked in by the pretty pictures and great inspirational stories of success! Now if only it were easier to pick out the authentic blogs and people...
DeleteThanks for the reply Diane! I also meant to say in my above comment, if you were a single mom stripper, that's okay too! I mean a girl's got to make a living. Point I'm making, I'm a very "don't judge me till you've walked in my shoes" kind of gal. And no, it's not that I'm all pro-stripper, I mean, come on, I can honestly say people would pay me NOT to! Ha ha. Have a wonderful and simplified day! Again, thanks for all the inspiration and for keepin it "real"!
ReplyDeleteGreat thoughts! I launched my blog today and am mystified that, after all the hard work I put into researching and rewriting posts, that people would fabricate content. Grr. Love your site-- thanks for all you contribute!
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